Say Hay…

Say Hay…

There’s man I have seen on my afternoon walks, going back a couple of years now. He’s bald, roughly my age, my build, and walks a smaller size black lab mix. He uses a generic leash/harness on the dog.

Each time I see him, I either nod or say hello. For a couple of years now, the man has stomped passed me immersed in his rhythm, eyes on the ground, and never said hello back, nor even made eye contact with me – not once.

Still, I nod or speak to him every time we cross paths, despite that I have labeled him as a complete dick, for his absence of acknowledgement. Compete. Dick.


I’ve never understood this; the people who walk about their community and won’t acknowledge others from within that community.

I get it, we all want down time. Turn the noise off. Tune out. That’s part of why I walk. But how hard is it to say hello to a neighbor…?

Harder than I might have imagined, I have learned.


Yesterday, I saw the same man with his black dog, not on the trail, but in a local grocery store with his dog beside him. This time though, the dog was a long harness that ran the length of his back. On each side of the harness, in bold white letters it read…


Who’s the dick now…?

I have no idea what the man’s PTSD arose from. I live in a very military community though, and have known multiple PTSD victims, and even worked with a few in my studio.

This is not the only person I see who never makes eye contact or takes time to say hello. I will try harder now to engage – to smile and sound sincere when I pass people like this. They may need that to be alone, but they may also need a little faith in fellow hominids… Jhciacb


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13 responses

  1. Oh man, I would have thought he was a dick if I were in that situation too. I always smile when I catch random people’s eyes or glances, I would have been totally turned off if it was ignored repeatedly. You just never know what people are going through.

  2. So true. May we all take a moment to attend to our own thoughts. Mindfulness would have us acknowledging our judgment and correcting that, rather than making up a story to validate it. This is so needed at this moment in history. Thanks!

    • Thanks, Leslie. Always means a lot that you read these and read between the lines. BTW: If you’re ever in or near Fallbrook, wold be great to meet you — and if I’m ever in OC, who knows, perhaps I’ll knock…

  3. I live by I can do more & I can do better. That leaves the obligation on me. Others own their right to their actions thoughts feelings.

  4. We’re all guilty of it,and should not be quick to judge.Having had a brother with the disorder I learned quickly tolerance and understanding,Never saying I know what you’re going through,only can imagine what’s on peoples minds.
    My brother Cohen Keep Shining Light on Folks with Your Smile.
    L U Always

  5. I have a lot of people that don’t say HI to me when I run & many do. One woman actually gets off the sidewalk while she passes me.. Good points made here Roy! Although I do live where people are not the friendliest & don’t know the neighbors. 🙂

    • Thanks, Jody. I know the OC is a different world where many more people keep to themselves. I wouldn’t last a minute there. But here in rural San Diego, I would hope people would be more neighborly…

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